Now my mail includes temperament questions about children! Here is the question:
“My wife and I realize that we have a Choleric child. She is 7, first born, very bright (school comes easy) She is also prone to erratic behavior, fits of anger, outbursts and the like. She tries to dominate by manipulating your actions through hers. We now know not to spank a Choleric child, but how do you discipline one? Thanks for any help.”
My answer: First understand that NO ONE is a pure Choleric or any of the other four types. At 7 it may be difficult to see her secondary type but it’s there. Is she detailed in her school work or drawing or organizing her toys? If so, her secondary might be Melancholy. is she outgoing and talkative? Her secondary type might be Sanguine.
A Choleric is a task-oriented, goal focused individual who doesn’t care much how they achieve those goals. Rather than trying to control, I suggest searching out “energy outlets” that are goal oriented. I’ve not been involved personally but some sort of martial arts where discipline and control are stressed might be a partial solution.
Discipline has to MAKE SENSE to a Choleric or they will just scorn it and you. Most likely an activity-based discipline like cleaning or picking up sticks in the yard or something like that; don’t make them take a “time out”; that will just make the pot boil.
Let me know if I can answer further. Best wishes.