Here’s a letter:


Hi Hal,

I read about what u say about the personality types and I would like to know if a choleric/melancholy is compatible with a choleric/melancholy - the same personality.

My boyfriend has the same temperament as me and I would like to know if that makes sense. I am not completely sure if I am a choleric melancholy I may also be a sanguine. I wish my bf to be more relaxed and funny and not so serious all the time and he as well wants me to be more serious and not so “childish”. Is it possibe to work on the relationship that we get along and not be annoyed about the other person’s personality? Are we even compatible?

Susanne

And I reply:


Two Cholerics can get long ONLY if they both share the same ideals and beliefs.  And that is NOT common.  If he considers you “childish” you may have more Sanguine than you currently think.

 

Cholerics are most frustrated with Sanguines – they are bothered by what they consider meaningless talk.

 

Since you cannot change another person’s temperament, you either have to get along naturally, learn coping skills, or “agree to disagree” on topics that cause strife.

 

Hope that helps – you might want to seek out a more detailed Temperament test to refine your knowledge of your temperament type.

 

Hal Warfield